How is happiness a skill?

I used to think that happiness was something that you either had or didn’t.

Now, I’ve learned that happiness is a skill.

It is a skill that you can develop and refine. It’s not something you just fall into.

The issue is that many of us conflate short-term pleasure with happiness.

Eating unhealthy food, online shopping, or binge-watching Netflix all day, will not solve for long-term happiness.

To work on the skill, start with awareness. Ask yourself: “What are 5 things that make me truly happy?”

Then ask: “What 3 of those things can I do this week?” “When can I do them?”

If you link these to your life’s purpose, you are winning.

How do you determine what this purpose is?

Fast forward to your last day on earth, and imagine asking yourself “What would I like to have achieved by then?”

Bring that back to now. Ask yourself: “If I do these 3 things that truly make me happy each week, am I going to end up with the life I want for myself”.

Depending on the answer, work to align your daily, weekly, and monthly habits.

Start by making small changes.

You’ll:
✨feel more in control
✨feel a sense of calm
✨feel an alignment of your internal desires with your external actions
✨work on your happiness