Fitting in vs belonging

Recently, a client shared with me: “All I want is to fit in.”

I paused and asked her if what she truly desired was to belong.

These two concepts can be polar opposites.

Too often, we sacrifice our true authentic selves to fit in. We try to change for others.

Belonging is showing up exactly as you are. It is accepting that your tribe will eventually find you.

If we’re constantly trying to fit in, we end up feeling numb. We waste time engaging in activities that don't reflect who we are or align with our true interests and abilities.

Instead, we need to recognize that our path is our own. We need to find our purpose first.

Here are some tools that can help you discover your true self:

✨ Journaling: start your day by writing down your thoughts and feelings. This practice can clarify your values and desires.

✨ Coaching or Therapy: professional support can provide the guidance and infrastructure you need to explore your identity.

✨ Meditation: can help you find inner peace, reduce stress, and improve focus. This then fosters self-awareness.

✨ Experimentation and creativity: try new activities or hobbies to discover what resonates with you.

Remember, belonging starts with being true to yourself.

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