How to control your thoughts

Have you ever felt overpowered by your thoughts?

It wasn’t until recently, that I discovered true wellness is about navigating our inner world.

The first step is realizing that you have the power to change your relationship with your thoughts.

So often we’re told to “just be positive”.

This isn’t helpful. Biologically, our brains are wired to focus on the negative.

It’s not realistic to weed out every single defeatist thought or emotion.

Instead, the key is knowing that you can challenge your thoughts and change how you interact with them.

Here’s how:
1. Remind yourself: “No Feeling is Final”
✅ Emotions like anxiety or sadness are temporary. Acknowledge them, and remember they will pass

2. Practice the perception exercise: “You are the sky, everything else is just the weather”
✅ Think of yourself as the sky; your emotions are merely the weather. No matter how stormy it gets, the sky remains intact

3. Notice that something is a thought and let it pass
✅ E.g. if you’re feeling that you’re not good enough, tell yourself: “I notice that I am having this thought, and it is just a thought”. That allows you to create some distance between the thought and the feeling

4. Be action-oriented
✅ If something is bothering you, ask: “What aligns with my values? What action can I take right now to move forward?”